It’s actually been less than a year since I last posted, so that’s not so bad. I miss blogging being a thing like I miss having a tv channel that shows music videos. 2017 for me was a year of organizing (the political kind) and I went hard for about 9 months and then crashed. I was part of a successful campaign to pass a new ordinance on police accountability and transparency that goes into effect today, and a successful city council campaign to elect Nirva Lafortune. Two good things in a year of loss.
A friend suggested reflecting on 2017 by listing one good thing from each month, and here are mine:
Jan-was an adult observer when 1000 local high school students walked out of class to the statehouse to protest the inauguration (absolute highlight of my year). If you watch the video in the link, there is a moment when a couple hundred students standing around by the statehouse see hundred more students marching up the street in front of the mall, realize how big the protest is going to be, and start running to meet them-all the adults were crying.
Feb-went to a blur of emergency meetings, met a lot of people
March-walked into a dive bar with my daughter, walked out with a date
April-hung out with a new mom friend like I remember my mom doing (taking the kids to IHOP on Saturday night)
May-went with LB to a very raucous city council meeting where we got a first yes vote on a new police accountability ordinance
June-went to Chicago for my diss advisors retirement
July-a week in Maine where junie ran wild with the island children
Aug-door knocked for our city council race, and Nirva Lafortune won by a lot!
And 1st grade (terrible pic but look at those shoes!)
Sept-family camping, on of my favorite things LB and I do all year
Oct-klezmer and marching brass band Halloween parade
Nov-my girl turned 7 and had a party she loved, and I went to the Day of Mourning in Plymouth for the first time
Dec-a whole month with our beautiful Christmas tree
New Years Deep Freeze in Maine
A friend was just blogging about intentions vs resolutions for New Years, and I like the improvisation involved in having a theme for the year that I then have to figure out how to live. I think my theme for this year needs to be health. Sitting at work/sitting in all those meetings/eating random potluck offerings/busing and ubering from one location to the next/on the computer all the time, all those things have been unkind to my body and sometimes my spirt. I’m lying in bed typing and my head hurts and my shoulders hurt and my back hurts. I’ve noticed that my balance has gotten so much worse this year, and I get up from the floor like an old person. I’m very lucky to be in good physical health, but I need to invest in what I’ve got instead of squandering it.
People here roll the windows down and turn the music up while they idle by the store, Kendrick Lamar fades into some old school Fugees doing “Killing Me Softly.” We buy our popsicles at the corner store from a guy named Habib, who calls us both baby. My daughter goes to school with a majority of kids who are poor and brown, and she says the pledge of allegiance in Spanish (but only every other day).
The building where I work also houses a gay bar, a Mexican restaurant, and the print shop of a community arts organization. Various styles of Mexican music compete with Techno and the OomPah beat of the print presses, and the cacophony bubbles up through our floors. On election day, I bought a small coffee (for $4.00!) from a guy who in my memory has a small waxed moustache. The more your coffee costs, the slower your barista moves. As I crossed the alley back to work, a drag queen from the gay bar in the downstairs of my work building rasped: “Honey, you want to smoke some marijuana?” I politely declined, and she (I’m assuming that is the correct pronoun as this person was at the time in full drag) replied, “Sorry baby, I’m just so nervous!”
We ride the bus. Riders are many colors and they speak many languages. We riders work together so that the system can work for us. People shift as one for a man in a wheelchair, decide who will move for the lady with the cane, hoist kids and packages onto laps as the seats fill. One day LB had a horrible coughing fit after we ran for the bus, and the driver offered to stop and run into Dunkin’ Donuts to get her a bottle of water. One night we stayed late at LB’s school for Animal Adventure night. Afterwards we walked to our bus stop, which is in a worn working class neighborhood, on a busy potholed road. It was rainy and the bus was late. The only other person waiting was a youngish black man with lots of bags. We waited and waited, and he didn’t seem to mind as LB encroached on his space as she leapt like a frog. He stepped away to smoke a cigarette and then moved back under the shelter. And, then he took two sharp steps toward us. My hand went automatically in front of LB, protecting her. He saw me, and motioned toward the roof of the bus shelter. He had been standing under a huge hole and the rain had gotten heavier-he had moved toward us to get out of the rain. I smiled at him-the smile of trying to ask for forgiveness. But I said only, “it’s really starting to rain, I hope the bus comes soon.” We are all in motion.
This is a city and cities hold poor people, and people with many different skin colors. We are a city that sits on indigenous land and indigenous people remain here, with the descendants of of white colonizers who fled here seeking religious freedom. We are a city dominated by immigrants, migrants, and refugees. I made a mental list of all the people LB I interact on a regular basis who were not born in the US:
many of our bus drivers
teachers and staff at LB’s school
LB’s fellow students
the man who fixes our copier
students at my work
workers at several of my favorite downtown restaurants
the bank teller who knows my name
several of my doctors
the owner of the place I go to get my eyebrows threaded
the owners of the dry cleaner I use
the guy who owns the Indian grocery
and friends of course
Without immigrants, migrants, and refugees our city would grind to a halt. The only thing we could count on is $4.00 coffees poured by guys with waxed moustaches. And, our life is good. We don’t have a lot, but we have enough. We don’t fear those who we know, even if they look different from us, speak different languages, and come from different places. And sometimes we do fear those we don’t know, because they look different and move different and sound different. But, when we stop, we know that fear breaks us. We must learn to know each other. Vulnerability must be our strength. Love must be our strength. We must move together.
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New posts up at the other blog about schools and spring, and a peek at this year’s spring tree in all it’s garish glory. No worries, the branch was lying on the sidewalk already broken when I was walking LB home from the bar one Friday evening, so no branches were sawed for this project (locate the bad parenting moment in that sentence).